Month: December 2022

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Set Meaningful Goals For True And Lasting Change

By: Grace Lindsey, BA, Certified Life Coach

January: A time of year where everybody tries to become a new version of themselves, repeating the same strategies that haven’t worked. ‘But really…it will work this time’. Sound familiar?

Why do we find it so hard to implement new habits, behaviours or lifestyle choices?

First thing we need to stop doing is “shoulding” ourselves. How many times have you said I should eat less junk food? I should workout more. I should try and be more social. Etc. Why “should” you do those things? Because society says so? Because your parents say so? Because you think you might be more loveable if you do? Instead of shoulding ourselves, I propose we get clarity on a compelling future or vision where we are working towards something that is meaningful and attainable.

‘Should’ pushes us nowhere, meaning combined with action pulls us forward.

When it comes to setting goals and implementing change, we must first look at our motivation. Knowing why a goal is important to us along with what benefits the achievement will bring is what will keep us going when we want to quit. It is within those moments that we keep going where our growth becomes limitless.

Once we are clear on the deeper meaning behind our goals, exploring the feeling attached to  desired outcomes is important. For example, if your goal is to lose 10lbs, ask yourself: What will I feel like when I have lost this weight? Is it confident? Is it free? Will you feel more energized to play with your kids on the weekend? When it comes to wanting something, we are usually seeking the feeling of achieving the goal vs the goal itself.

Lastly, we must have a daily practice in place where we are reminding ourselves of all the things mentioned above. For example:

  • five minutes of writing them down at the beginning of our day
  • meditating on them
  • reading them before we go to sleep every night
  • saying them out loud on the way to work
  • mentally rehearsing living our lives as this new version of us – what choices do you make? What habits do you have? How do you live?

This part is crucial for profound and lasting results. Unfortunately, living in hope that we will achieve the goals we set on January 1st, is just not enough to see it through. It is vital we remind ourselves as regularly as possible where we are heading, why it is important to us, what the feeling we are trying to achieve is and who we are becoming.

Another key ingredient is finding joy in the process. No journey is ever linear and if we are living in “I’ll be happy when I achieve this or change that” we will never truly be happy because our success, fulfilment and worthiness will be determined by our outcome. Plus, by the time we have achieved it, our goal post will probably have moved, and we will want something else anyways.

Here are 6 powerful questions to set meaningful goals and make lasting change:

  1. What do I want to achieve/what is my goal?
  1. What makes achieving this goal important to me?
  1. What benefits will achieving this goal bring to me?
  1. How will achieving this goal make me feel?
  1. How could I cultivate that feeling right now/every day?
  1. What daily practice can I put in place to remind myself of all these things?

It is now, we can take the first action step towards our compelling future.

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3 Ways to Improve the Quantity & Quality of Sleep: Your Evening Anchors

By: Dr. Tamara Kung, ND

Sleep is a foundational human function that takes a big hit when our routines get disrupted. Fortunately, the holidays can be an opportunity to dial in and experiment with a new routine before we get caught up with the rat race of busy work and school schedules again.

Dim the lights down

Let your environment cue your body and mind for sleep. Melatonin is our mighty sleep hormone and it becomes activated by dimming light and darkness. For those who have dimmable lighting and can schedule it, set your lights to dim 2 hours before bed.
Candlelight is another way to signal melatonin release. One of my favourite ways to signal sleep is to brush my teeth and shower in candlelight. You may need a couple candles depending on your preference, but the feeling and tone it sets for the rest of your night makes harsh blue light screens feel like an unwelcome intruder!

Cool down your core

Experts like Matthew Walker have been studying the exact physiological requirements to initiate and sustain quality sleep. They have tracked the optimal temperature our bodies and brain needs for sleep. Our core temperature needs to drop about 1-2°F to get good sleep.
A hot shower or bath really works! When we heat up the surface of our bodies, our blood vessels dilate and release heat from our core body. Another lovely routine is to try saunas. Saunas are like a forced break or a little haven from our business and electronics which has the double benefit of helping our minds wind down!
Keep your sleeping space cooler, aiming for 18°C by cracking a window open or setting your thermostat on a schedule to this temperature 1-2 hours before bed.

Winding down anchors

Just because you are resting doesn’t mean it’s a passive process. Just like everything else you achieve, it takes intentional action. We don’t achieve anything meaningful by being passive about it. Winding down and sleeping is the same. Many of us use the TV or scrolling on our phones to wind down because we can passively sit on the couch and simply do nothing, and sometimes it’s SO nice to do nothing. But this also does nothing to initiate quality sleep either.
Give your mind a break from jittery, scattered attention, and let it rest quietly on one thing. Maybe your thing is reading, stretching, breathing practice, journaling, sauna-ing, taking a bath, doing your skincare routine to candlelight… whichever one thing sounds good, and feels good, go for it!

For those struggling with sleep, remember that these are experiments to try. Earnestly try a new routine continuously for a week to see if it works for you. If not, adjust it and be patient as you find the sequence of rituals that works best for you. Aim to incorporate each evening anchor to be something that you actually enjoy and look forward to.

For a deeper dive on why we sleep and how to improve it, read our previous article here.

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Reduce Stress And Enjoy The Holidays Like Never Before

By: Grace Lindsey, BA, Certified Life Coach

As magical as the holiday season can be, it can also be stress inducing, triggering and overwhelming. We often have high expectations of what it “should” be like and put pressure on ourselves to make it so. From buying everyone meaningful gifts, to the family member with the same questions every year, to feeling lonely in a room full of people, the holiday season is uniquely complex for many.

How can we ‘de-stress’ our approach this year and bring more joy?

First, let’s start with letting go of whatever image and expectation you have of the holidays. Suffering and internal conflict occur when reality differs from our original blueprint. Try letting go of any and all expectations, radically accept an element of chaos, and see how you show up to this year’s holiday event. Acceptance is a surprisingly powerful tool when it comes to stress and our emotions.

Secondly, adopt an approach of gratitude and appreciation. Did you know that being in a state of gratitude on a regular basis starts to re-wire our brains by producing the feel-good chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin? It literally brings calm to our entire nervous system. We may not be able to control what is going on around us, but we can control how we choose to respond. Cultivating a state of gratitude is almost guaranteed to shift your focus and bring you peace in what could be a potentially stressful situation. 

“Yeah, but all of these things are easier said than done.” I hear you say. You are correct. Here are a couple of tips to get you started.

  1. One simple way to change and challenge a feeling or emotion is to interrupt it by asking yourself a question. When you feel stressed or overwhelmed, ask yourself this: “Is this something that is within my control?” And if it’s not, I propose you let it go by redirecting your focus onto one small thing you can control. Make a cup of tea, go for a walk, pet the dog, pour a glass of wine, control something else that brings you closer to a calmer and more peaceful state.
  2. Another great question to ask yourself as a negative emotion emerges is, “What could I be grateful for in this moment?” Your answer can be as simple as the coffee you are sipping, to the smile on children’s faces while playing with their new toys. 

In summary, here are my 5 steps to go from overwhelm to joy this holiday season, or any time for that matter…

  1. Get rid of your blueprint – it isn’t serving you anymore.
  2. Radically accept an element of chaos.
  3. Let go of all expectations you have of yourself and the occasion, and have a gratitude mindset.
  4. Take a deep breath, focus on something you can control.
  5. Ask yourself, “what can I be grateful for in this moment?”

And don’t forget to go easy on yourself this year. You deserve it.

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5 ways to build your health protection buffer during the holidays

By: Dr. Tamara Kung, ND

Let’s be real. We will probably enjoy more processed foods and some alcohol these holidays… and that’s OK! Studies show that when we spend time with others, we increase our longevity by 50%!

The emotional feel-good effects of social times are great, but there is a tangible, physical change that occurs when we connect with others. Loneliness increases inflammation while a sense of belonging and connection decreases it. This reduces the risk of headaches, joint pain, digestive issues, and skin conditions like acne or psoriasis.

Some holiday indulgences are expected, however, and here are five ways to build up a buffer of protection so your health doesn’t have to take such a big hit.

Antioxidants – Load up on these before and after your event. One way I protect myself is having 1 tsp of matcha powder the morning of and the morning after (especially ones that are blended with a mushroom for a boost of antioxidants and gut health). Check out antioxidant rich foods here.

Fiber – A fun study showed that even if we were to have a meal that’s high in refined sugars, like frosted flake cereal, adding fiber such like a cup of delicious blueberries, we can blunt the amount of sugar we absorb into our bloodstream (despite the natural sugars in the fruit!) This is shown to reduce the blood sugar spike and keep us from becoming insulin resistant.

Drink alternatives – There is a whole new demand when it comes to fun drinks that are alcohol free! Daydream is one of our favourites without any added sugars and the bonus of adaptogenic herbs (aka “stress soothers & mood balancers”). Go ahead and enjoy an alcohol-free bevy if you don’t feel like drinking. Have it a nice glass, and none would be the wiser!

Intermittent Fasting – This is a skill I love to teach. Please speak with your healthcare provider or friendly neighbourhood naturopath to adapt your intermittent fasting program to your specific health needs. We are meant to balance periods of feasting with fasting so we can use that extra energy instead of having it sit stored as fat around our organs. If you enjoyed a big festive dinner, maybe you can wait a little later the next day to have your first meal.

Sleep – This is our ultimate recovery and superpower. No easy feat when our routines get jostled around but worth being mindful of. A good night’s sleep is the only time for every part of our body and mind to heal.

The holidays are fun times and a welcome break from our regular routines. Enjoy shaking it up and use one or two of these tips to help make sure you bounce back more quickly, or better yet, to protect yourself from getting hit too hard in the first place!

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